Category: single mothers

Keep Your Damn Comments To Yourself: Top 5 Things Not To Say To A Single Mother

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Everyone has an opinion about the parenting methods and lives of single mothers. Even single mother’s have something to say about single mother’s. Well Mommish.com has come up with a list of things you should never say to a single mother. 

Warning: A woman that’s working and running a household solo is likely to curse you out.



In cased you’ve missed it, between the countless op-ed pieces and numerous sets of statistics being thrown around, single motherhood is on the rise. More than 50 percent of of kids born to women under the age of 30 are born to single moms. I promise, that’s the only statistic I’m going to throw at you.
This weekend, Katie Roiphe wrote a piece in the New York Times entitled, “In Defense of Single Motherhood.” Since I just gave my own feelings on being a single mommy earlier this week, I thought I would take this opportunity to give everyone a short lesson in appropriate conversation starters with single moms.
Like with any other parent on the planet, making wide, sweeping assumptions about a single mom based on a media narrative or a couple of research studies is sure to be more than a little offensive. Moms, whether they’re married or not, are individuals. We’re all different. And yet, these tired prejudices always find a way to worm back into the conversation when it comes to single moms.

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Is being independent all it’s cracked up to be

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We’ve heard the songs about “She got her own” “Independent lady”  “5 Star Chick”. All hyping us up to believe that providing 100% for yourself in every way possible is the new way to go.

Yep, we got played!!! Men are now using our words against us. They’re saying since you want to be the bread winner and flash how much you’re balling we don’t have to treat you like a lady. Dudes are now looking to their women for support. Now we have to be super freaks, pay the bills, have the kids, cook, clean and be sexy. Um that doesn’t sound like winning to me. That sounds like more work.

Every generation has its struggle but I’ll admit I’d much rather go back to the man making the larger chunk of the money and still treating me like a lady.

There are tons of single ladies looking for their BOSS and I’m a bit curious as to see if there is indeed a boss for every well paid woman.

In the midst of this independent movement there are single mothers that have labeled themselves independent. Not by direct choice but is this something we want to teach our children. Do we want our boys to believe a woman should do everything and man gets to pick and choose his responsibility. Do we want our daughters to pull all the weight in a relationship. Excuse my language but HELL NAW!

Chicago Comedian Kellye Howard made a great point in her blog. “So basically this rant was to say, you may pride yourself on being a SINGLE mother, but who is it really benefiting? I don’t think the child is getting the best possible deal when one parent is deleted from his/her life because the other parent wants to prove her independence.”


Read Kellye Howard’s Independently SELFISH Single mothers!

Let’s cut the crap and stop acting like paying bills by yourself or raising your kids alone is what you want. Don’t block the other parent from stepping up and Single ladies with no children stop screaming independent unless you want to keep paying all your bills yourself.

My point today is How independent do you really want to be?

Facebook Stat of the Day: Mother’s Make the World Go Around

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I now get the full understanding of “it takes a village to raise a child” with or without the father involved the mother has to make so many sacrifices. I am so thankful for the support of family and friends. I have an even deeper respect for the ones doing it on their own, with more than one child working and or going to school. It takes a lot! Nothing taken from the fathers but mothers I salute you to the fullest!


Smooches,


Ms. Danielle 

Balancing Business and Ambition: What’s a Mother to do?

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What a day!!

Mommy making moves is all moved out. Today is my 2nd day volunteering for the Black Enterprise Entrepreneurs Conference in Chicago. I’ve seen this event advertised for years but it wasn’t until this year that my light bulb went on. “I NEED to be there” I thought to myself. Well I did the research tweeted Alfred Edmond Jr. the Editor at Large at Black Enterprise for more information regarding volunteering. He gave me the link and the rest is history.

Life is about making moves not watching life move without you. I write about my small steps because I want you to know that Big things come from small actions. We must go into every situation with an open mind to ensure we get the most from each opportunity.

I’ve heard some amazing business stories from single mothers and stay at home moms doing 4 million in sales a year. It’s possible!! I’ll share more of my volunteer experience after Memorial Day.

Back to me being all moved out.

Days like this force me to put myself in the shoes of mothers that have abandoned their dreams because it was just too stressful to juggle family and ambition. Late nights planning business moves and early morning preparing kids for school can leave us exhausted.

I honestly haven’t seen anyone that sacrifices more than a mother. Motivated mommies make tough calls every day! No, we don’t yell to the world the opportunities we’ve passed on to keep our kids smiling but know that it happens often. There are no easy decisions when building a business and maintaining a HAPPY family. Key word being happy.

I’m determined to live a fulfilled abundant life so I’ll continue to push to balance my unruly Libra scales.

Well I’d like to hear tips from my Mommies Making Moves on how you keep your family happy and your professional life flourishing?

Help a sister out.

-Chanel