Identify these people immediately. Who we surround ourselves with can effect our growth and development. “Movers” get rid of “Mountains” to succeed. #MoveMountains
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From MommyMakinMoves Danni M. – Before I became a mom I didn’t realize all it takes to be a mother. In order to be a good parent you have to put in work, love, attention, time, compassion and the list goes on. All of this while still growing/ maturing into your own. Grooming to be the woman you’re destined to be. With that being said as a mother it’s easy to forget to eat because you’re focused onmaking sure the kids ate, put your wants and pleasures aside to make sure your child has all they need. Pass on your free time to help with homework and give affection. In so many words its easy to give so much to pour in your child/ren that you forget to replenish yourself. I’m so grateful for mommymakinmoves.com, it’s all about empowering mothers, it’s ok to be a mom on the move! Taking care of business and taking care of home but remembering to take care of yourself. Many of my fbf are mothers and I see your hustle and the wonderful mothers you all strive to be. Along your journey if you need some encouraging words, advice,or just that push when the going gets tough check out this site. Lets encourage each other as the beautiful hard working moms on the move. Happy Saturday!
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Complaining does nothing but make you look like a crazy lady that keeps going back to the unhappy place you just said you can’t take anymore of. Yep, that’s what you said!
What can you do to start living a life of love more often?
Communicate: Not scream. Tell your partner what you need. Let them know what makes you happy. I’m you believe that because you spend so much time with your hunny he knows. No sweetie, you better speak now or forever hold your anger. (We know that’s not going to happen.)
Show them what you want: The best way to communicate is to show your partner what you want. Treat him to a nice dinner, card and little gift. Nothing fancy, just a simple I appreciate you. That’s what you want right? A whole lot of small appreciation (BIG appreciations every now and then too)
Point out what’s good: It’s so easy to say what someone is doing wrong. It may take a little effort and thought but compliment all the things he does right. Women have become very strong, guarded even with our feelings. It’s ok to let that guard down to say “Baby, You make some great hamburger helper.” or “You’re really good at math can you help the kids.” Happy women everywhere agree that stroking a man’s ego is the best way keep him happy (And get what you want 😉
If you have a love makeover story please share mommymakinmoves@gmail.com
I remember back in 7th 8th grade we would roast people in our class. We joked about the boy that couldn’t read, the not so attractive girl, the boy that looked like a rat, the fat dude, and I was the black ass big lip girl…LOL..
My mom always said I was pretty. She taught me to have my own style and voice. She made me be comfortable in my own skin. Clearly, I’m brown skinned and I have big lips. My defense mechanism was knowing that the world saw these things as flaws. I already knew the insults people would have before they did. In a sense it made me more confident. I know ALL my cons (according to the world) but I am well aware of my pros.
1.) That thing or things that you believe are horrible, embrace it. Tyra Banks once said on America’s Next Top Model, you can either fix it or flaunt it. We often end up looking more ridiculous trying to fix or hide our flaws than just flaunting them. You’ve seen the Hollywood chicks that look extra scary now because they just couldn’t accept their beautiful flaws.
2.) Tell yourself how beautiful you are. I know it sounds basic but it’s true. So many of us invest so much energy into others that we forget to stop and say “Girl, you’re beautiful” Look those flaws in the eye and say “You will not hold me back”.
3.) Surround yourself with positive people. These days it seems hard to find people looking on the bright side but they’re out there. You don’t need people pointing out what’s wrong with you 24/7 (That’s never helped any one’s self esteem.) Hang around people that are comfortable in their skin and encourage you to be comfortable in yours. I remember having a friend that would run if you said the word skirt. She felt her legs where too skinny. I didn’t say “girl, you’re right you’ll look whack as hell in that.” I told her she’d look amazing in a skirt. Let’s just say we can’t get her out of dresses and skirts now.
Do you have a story about your journey becoming comfortable in your skin. Please share with us. chanel@bgrise2power.com
Yep, we got played!!! Men are now using our words against us. They’re saying since you want to be the bread winner and flash how much you’re balling we don’t have to treat you like a lady. Dudes are now looking to their women for support. Now we have to be super freaks, pay the bills, have the kids, cook, clean and be sexy. Um that doesn’t sound like winning to me. That sounds like more work.
Every generation has its struggle but I’ll admit I’d much rather go back to the man making the larger chunk of the money and still treating me like a lady.
There are tons of single ladies looking for their BOSS and I’m a bit curious as to see if there is indeed a boss for every well paid woman.
In the midst of this independent movement there are single mothers that have labeled themselves independent. Not by direct choice but is this something we want to teach our children. Do we want our boys to believe a woman should do everything and man gets to pick and choose his responsibility. Do we want our daughters to pull all the weight in a relationship. Excuse my language but HELL NAW!
Chicago Comedian Kellye Howard made a great point in her blog. “So basically this rant was to say, you may pride yourself on being a SINGLE mother, but who is it really benefiting? I don’t think the child is getting the best possible deal when one parent is deleted from his/her life because the other parent wants to prove her independence.”
Read Kellye Howard’s Independently SELFISH Single mothers!
Let’s cut the crap and stop acting like paying bills by yourself or raising your kids alone is what you want. Don’t block the other parent from stepping up and Single ladies with no children stop screaming independent unless you want to keep paying all your bills yourself.
My point today is How independent do you really want to be?
I now get the full understanding of “it takes a village to raise a child” with or without the father involved the mother has to make so many sacrifices. I am so thankful for the support of family and friends. I have an even deeper respect for the ones doing it on their own, with more than one child working and or going to school. It takes a lot! Nothing taken from the fathers but mothers I salute you to the fullest! |
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Good Morning Beautiful Mommies, Dynamic Dads and All the Magnificent folks reading my lil ole blog.
Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 