In my early 20’s I’ve called myself a bad bitch. My curves were on point, my life was about partying and school of course. I was studious during the day but when party time came I turned into a bad bitch. At the time it was appropriate to me. It was fun!
Bad bitches get attention, Bad bitches get the men with money, Bad bitches are confident. Right?
All those things are true to the naked eye. When we dig deeper we understand that Bad Bitches get treated just like any other woman. So the bad bitch has gone out her way to differentiate herself from “Normal” or “Average” women only to get treated the same or worse.
Makes no sense. When you know better you do better. In the black community “Bad Bitch” is a stage that young women go through. Much like the “Girls Gone Wild” stage other races go through. I believe that with proper guidance and education young women eventually grow out of the Bad Bitch stage into a Lady with more wisdom and knowledge to share with her sisters.
Clearly I’m not the one to judge. We all go threw stages in life but the hope is that we grow up. Those where my college years. My time to find myself. (Thank God I found her. LOL)
What about young girls that don’t go to college or have positive young women to counter what they’ve seen on TV or been told?
How can we help our women grow out the bad bitch stage?
Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 
Very well written and on point. We all go through stages in life where we struggle to find ourselves and often get caught up in what the masses are doing. I too was that girl in College, chasing after my education while chasing after what worked at the moment or what I thought worked at least. For young women who aren't fortunate enough to leave the block and grow out of the “bad bitch” mentality, it's not as easy for them to find their way on their own. In fact some women well into their 30's still have that mentality and much too often pass it down to their daughters. I think it is the responsibility of women like us to reach out if not to them, to their daughters to help them do better.
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