Category: family

Hard Lesson in Parenting: I can’t save my son from everything

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Had a dream that my son and I were at the top of a mountain enjoying the view – suddenly he fell down a hole in the mountain.

Of course, I tried my hardest to climb down and pull him up ( the dream ended with me trying to save my son. Not sure of the outcome)

My mind was racing all night trying to understand that dream. I talked it out with God and the conclusion was My parenting can get my son to the mountain top but only he can keep his self there.

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As a parent, I have to prepare my son spiritually, mentally and physically to overcome challenges before they come, because mommy can’t always save him.

That was a tough dream to have. I was fighting tears back, while figuring out what I could have done to keep him from falling.

 

  • I should’ve never took my eyes off him.
  • I should have had him anchored to me.
  • I should have emphasized safety more.

I was analyzing the heck out this dream ya’ll. Let me add this in, I rarely remember my dreams. Rarely is probably closer to NEVER.

So this dream about my son could not be ignored. The reality is that we can try our hardest to make sure our kids have everything they need in life, but LIFE will still happen to them. What’s more important than what we give them, is what we teach them.

  • Good grades are great, but are we teaching them how to cope when they get a bad grade.
  • Stylish clothes are awesome, but are we teaching them how to give to others.
  • Being popular is valuable, but are they limited their opportunities by only associating with certain people.
  • Going to church is a start, but are we teaching them to act on the lessons in the Bible.

Everyday we have to check ourselves and ask: Are we preparing our kids to conquer life without us? 

Adventures of Nelly & Bre- Bre: Passing my mother’s love to my sister

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Me and Bre Bre

Good Morning Beautiful Mommies, Dynamic Dads and All the Magnificent folks reading my lil ole blog.

Well summer time is here. Not sure how long you have been rocking with the blog but the weather change means my little sister Bre spending the summer with us.
Bre brings with her big attitude, alot of begging, dress up everyday, a million questions and a bus load of personality. I love every minute..
Just a short story about little Bre. Our mom died when she was one, her dad isn’t in the best place to take care of her, she’s ridiculously intelligent, has a dynamic personality and struggles with finding her place in this world.  So much of who I’ve developed into is because of her. She doesn’t know our mother therefore the only direct contact she has to the mother she never knew is ME. My theory is that I owe it to my mother to act like I have some sense and prove she raised me right..LBS. 
The lose of a loved one , especially a mother, can disrupt the whole family dynamic. It sure as hell threw my life off.
As Bre gets older she questions where she belongs. That uncertainty mixed with struggles of growing up can play a huge role in adult development.  Lord knows I can’t let her grow up ratchet and lost. Nope, my mom would never forgive me. 
My sister stares at me like I use to stare at my mom. She admires me and I just can’t abandon her by selfishly just thinking of what I want. I have to be a woman she can look up to. 
It’s my responsibility to pass on my mothers love to my sister.  
You’ll here more about the adventures of Nelly & Bre throughout the summer. 

Finding Balance – Update on business moves and life

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Hey Now!!! 


It’s been a while since I’ve updated you on what’s going with me. Not like you’ve been waiting on the edge of your seats but hey I at least owe you an update. 
I get so excited about other people’s hopes dreams and aspirations I often get sidetracked assisting others achieve their goals. The feeling of helping another realize their dreams is amazing. It naturally fuels me to wake up every morning and conquer another goal. I’ve come to the realization that no one is going to bring MY DREAMS to light but me. Saying them out loud, creating business plans and time lines is great but if I’m not taking any actions than its all a waste of paper and space on my laptop. 
Action, Focus and Follow through is what it takes to bring my vision to life. To save you time and your eyes from straining to read my long list of aspirations. I’ll list what’s I’m dabbling in these days.
•               Getting a grip on marriage. My husband and I are learning to work as a team to achieve longterm goals.
•               Catching up to my son’s comprehension of life. He knows way more than I think he knows
•               Joined a travel membership club. World Ventures allows me to travel with my friends for Costco prices. My family is in need of a vacation 🙂  http://lachanel.dreamtripslife.com/dreamtripslife
•               Perfecting the art of Marketing as the Marketing Manager for What’s Funny Live. Check out the weekly comedy shows. www.whatsfunnylive.com
•               In talks with a well known radio station to handle marketing for an upcoming event.
•               Working on turning my 1st love ‘dancing’ into a profitable biz. You’ll hear more about this real soon.
•               My t-shirt line has really taken off, now I’m hustling to keep up with the growth.
I have about 5 more things. Lets leave something to the imagination. HaHa. I feel better now, like best friends that haven’t spoken to each other in months.

I’m growing, failing, succeeding, growing and progressing just like you. You’re not alone sweetheart. There are many small battles to be won before we get our big break.
Check out the businesses I’m working with now. If something interest you shoot me an email. chanel@bgrise2power.com
Many Blessing!!! 
Keep moving forward.