Celebrity stylist June Ambrose shared this 5 step guideline for being more confident on her Instagram.
Not cocky, but convinced that God has given me what I need to get where he destined me to be. Never be afraid to be confident. Confidence doesn’t mean you have everything or know everything. It means your comfortable enough in your own skin to admit you don’t know everything but in due time you’ll figure it out.
Claim your confidence!
One of my mentors once told me that my gifts would make room for me. You cant keep Your goods to yourself!!!! Let the world know you’re out here and you mean business.
1.)Recognizing your own gifts is the first step. (What makes you happy and comes natural to you?)
2.)Next have confidence in your gifts. Opportunities notice confidence and will seek you if you have a pleasing personality and gifts.
3.) Stay prepared to perform. If you stay ready you don’t have to get ready.
4.) Always be professional and personable. Be the person people enjoy working with and have a successful track record. You’ll stay the topic of discussion in your expertise.
Now go make those moves!
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I remember back in 7th 8th grade we would roast people in our class. We joked about the boy that couldn’t read, the not so attractive girl, the boy that looked like a rat, the fat dude, and I was the black ass big lip girl…LOL..
My mom always said I was pretty. She taught me to have my own style and voice. She made me be comfortable in my own skin. Clearly, I’m brown skinned and I have big lips. My defense mechanism was knowing that the world saw these things as flaws. I already knew the insults people would have before they did. In a sense it made me more confident. I know ALL my cons (according to the world) but I am well aware of my pros.
1.) That thing or things that you believe are horrible, embrace it. Tyra Banks once said on America’s Next Top Model, you can either fix it or flaunt it. We often end up looking more ridiculous trying to fix or hide our flaws than just flaunting them. You’ve seen the Hollywood chicks that look extra scary now because they just couldn’t accept their beautiful flaws.
2.) Tell yourself how beautiful you are. I know it sounds basic but it’s true. So many of us invest so much energy into others that we forget to stop and say “Girl, you’re beautiful” Look those flaws in the eye and say “You will not hold me back”.
3.) Surround yourself with positive people. These days it seems hard to find people looking on the bright side but they’re out there. You don’t need people pointing out what’s wrong with you 24/7 (That’s never helped any one’s self esteem.) Hang around people that are comfortable in their skin and encourage you to be comfortable in yours. I remember having a friend that would run if you said the word skirt. She felt her legs where too skinny. I didn’t say “girl, you’re right you’ll look whack as hell in that.” I told her she’d look amazing in a skirt. Let’s just say we can’t get her out of dresses and skirts now.
Do you have a story about your journey becoming comfortable in your skin. Please share with us. chanel@bgrise2power.com
You’re week is almost over but your goals shouldn’t be. We all have career goals ,or at least we should, that act as indicators that we’re headed in the right direction. No matter what your goals professional or personal you should always pep talk yourself. Yes, I said pep talk!!!
Before me and my girls go out for a night on the town we pop in our “Feeling Our self Music”. It usually consists of Beyonce, Juke Music and anything that says we’re fly young women. There are plenty of songs to hit the club but not too many for going to work. So for this you need to create your own mental theme music.
Everyday, situation and occasion has it’s own theme. Choose accordingly.
According to Successconsciousness.com affirmations have to be repeated with attention, conviction, interest and desire.
Here’s a few affirmations to help you stay pumped with purpose!
I‘m fully prepared to handle any obstacle that comes my way
I’m not perfect at everything but I’m amazing at (insert what you’re good at).
No one has more control of me than I have over myself
I’m too Fly to Fail
I’ve come to far to give up now
So you get the point. You must speak to yourself with confidence and respect if you expect others to have confidence in you and respect for you. Practice pep talking yourself multiple times a day before you know it you’ll be an affirmation Guru.
What’s your affirmation for today?
-Chanel
Many of the young people I talk to aren’t aware of the benefits of associating with different groups of professionals to make life long connections. Being “real” or true to your hood doesn’t mean limiting your thinking or your circle of friends. Fear and rejection is a huge reason why many of us choose not to interact with other groups but that’s not a good reason. This is America a melting pot for success! Don’t let fear keep you from expanding your reach beyond what you’re already accustomed to. We are a part of the information age. Yeah, it sounds lame but we have access to way too much information to feel insecure about holding conversations with people that don’t live or look like us.
My 1st word of advice is be confident that even if you don’t know what you’re talking about you have something to give and gain from meeting new people. Your opinion is important.
Use these simple tips below in any networking environment (which is everywhere) to win connections.
From CIO.com
Dale Carnegie literally wrote the book on networking in 1936. How to Win Friends and Influence People demystified the process of making friends out of strangers and inspired legions of business coaches to carry on Carnegie’s message. Peter Handal, the chairman, CEO and president of Dale Carnegie & Associates, shared some of Carnegie’s rules for meeting new people with CIO.com.
Smile: “This is such a simple, basic rule, yet people just don’t think about it,” says Handal. They’re so focused on needing to network at a conference that they don’t realize they’re walking around with a scowl on their face. Scowling, serious, expressions are forbidding, says Handal. People are more likely to warm up to someone who says good morning with a broad smile than they are to someone with a dour countenance.
Ask a question: Joining a group engaged in conversation can be awkward. The best way to do so is to pose a question to the group after getting the gist of the conversation, says Handal. “You build your credibility by asking a question, and for a shy person, that’s a much easier way to engage than by barging in with an opinion,” he says.
Listen: One of the most profound points Carnegie made in How to Win Friends was that people love to talk about themselves. If you can get people to discuss their experiences and opinions—and listen with sincere interest—you can have a great conversation with someone without having to say much at all.
Business cards: Always have them handy, says Handal. “They’re an effective way for you to leave your name behind so that people remember who you are.”
Say the person’s name: “People like to hear their own name,” says Handal, pointing to another one of Carnegie’s basic principles—that a person’s name is the sweetest sound to that person. So when you meet someone, use his name in conversation. Doing so makes the other person feel more comfortable, like you really know him and he knows you.
—M. Levinson
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Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 