Be open to learn something from those people. Co-workers, business partners, customers etc. have something that belongs to you. Knowledge!
Go get it
It isn’t sufficient just to want – you’ve got to ask yourself what you are going to do to get the things you want.
~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
What are you doing to attain your wants?
Whew! It’s been a long week. Daily work Fire drills ( that’s what we call last minute request) leave you exhausted and playing catch up.
On top of that, Commuting is a complete energy sucker but it has its perks. Not battling Chicago Traffic is a plus. Especially on days like today when President Obama will be in the Hyde Park area rallying support for Stricter Gun Control Legislation.
Yes my Metra commute is much needed . A sanctuary of peace to clear my head. A cozy seat and good book is my homie right now. Right now I’m reading “Can You Stand to be Blessed” by T. D Jakes.. It’s a throwback.
Peep the picture of Jakes with hair lol.
Have a blessed and productive day! I’ll check in with you soon.
Sincerely,
MommyMakinMoves
Complaining does nothing but make you look like a crazy lady that keeps going back to the unhappy place you just said you can’t take anymore of. Yep, that’s what you said!
What can you do to start living a life of love more often?
Communicate: Not scream. Tell your partner what you need. Let them know what makes you happy. I’m you believe that because you spend so much time with your hunny he knows. No sweetie, you better speak now or forever hold your anger. (We know that’s not going to happen.)
Show them what you want: The best way to communicate is to show your partner what you want. Treat him to a nice dinner, card and little gift. Nothing fancy, just a simple I appreciate you. That’s what you want right? A whole lot of small appreciation (BIG appreciations every now and then too)
Point out what’s good: It’s so easy to say what someone is doing wrong. It may take a little effort and thought but compliment all the things he does right. Women have become very strong, guarded even with our feelings. It’s ok to let that guard down to say “Baby, You make some great hamburger helper.” or “You’re really good at math can you help the kids.” Happy women everywhere agree that stroking a man’s ego is the best way keep him happy (And get what you want 😉
If you have a love makeover story please share mommymakinmoves@gmail.com
In my early 20’s I’ve called myself a bad bitch. My curves were on point, my life was about partying and school of course. I was studious during the day but when party time came I turned into a bad bitch. At the time it was appropriate to me. It was fun!
Bad bitches get attention, Bad bitches get the men with money, Bad bitches are confident. Right?
All those things are true to the naked eye. When we dig deeper we understand that Bad Bitches get treated just like any other woman. So the bad bitch has gone out her way to differentiate herself from “Normal” or “Average” women only to get treated the same or worse.
Makes no sense. When you know better you do better. In the black community “Bad Bitch” is a stage that young women go through. Much like the “Girls Gone Wild” stage other races go through. I believe that with proper guidance and education young women eventually grow out of the Bad Bitch stage into a Lady with more wisdom and knowledge to share with her sisters.
Clearly I’m not the one to judge. We all go threw stages in life but the hope is that we grow up. Those where my college years. My time to find myself. (Thank God I found her. LOL)
What about young girls that don’t go to college or have positive young women to counter what they’ve seen on TV or been told?
How can we help our women grow out the bad bitch stage?
I remember back in 7th 8th grade we would roast people in our class. We joked about the boy that couldn’t read, the not so attractive girl, the boy that looked like a rat, the fat dude, and I was the black ass big lip girl…LOL..
My mom always said I was pretty. She taught me to have my own style and voice. She made me be comfortable in my own skin. Clearly, I’m brown skinned and I have big lips. My defense mechanism was knowing that the world saw these things as flaws. I already knew the insults people would have before they did. In a sense it made me more confident. I know ALL my cons (according to the world) but I am well aware of my pros.
1.) That thing or things that you believe are horrible, embrace it. Tyra Banks once said on America’s Next Top Model, you can either fix it or flaunt it. We often end up looking more ridiculous trying to fix or hide our flaws than just flaunting them. You’ve seen the Hollywood chicks that look extra scary now because they just couldn’t accept their beautiful flaws.
2.) Tell yourself how beautiful you are. I know it sounds basic but it’s true. So many of us invest so much energy into others that we forget to stop and say “Girl, you’re beautiful” Look those flaws in the eye and say “You will not hold me back”.
3.) Surround yourself with positive people. These days it seems hard to find people looking on the bright side but they’re out there. You don’t need people pointing out what’s wrong with you 24/7 (That’s never helped any one’s self esteem.) Hang around people that are comfortable in their skin and encourage you to be comfortable in yours. I remember having a friend that would run if you said the word skirt. She felt her legs where too skinny. I didn’t say “girl, you’re right you’ll look whack as hell in that.” I told her she’d look amazing in a skirt. Let’s just say we can’t get her out of dresses and skirts now.
Do you have a story about your journey becoming comfortable in your skin. Please share with us. chanel@bgrise2power.com
At some point in your life you have to roll up your sleeves to get dirty and immersed in hard work. Not every blessing will fall in your lap effortlessly. Take your progress seriously. So many wonder why other’s are in better situations. They probably bust their butt to get where they are, They may pray when you don’t feel like it and work when you said your tired. Don’t complain about what you don’t have if you aren’t willing to do what’s necessary to get what you want. – Go Get Your Blessings…
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Ride of Die Chick, That was the song back in the day. Eve seemed liked the hard do whatever for her man type. Yeah that’s what a man wants a chick that’s willing to sit in jail why he finds another dying to be loved chick to take his next case.
That’s not what happens to all the women with criminal backgrounds but it would be foolish of us not to believe that men don’t play a vital role in women choosing to be apart of that life. In a society that seems to be embarrassing female leadership, we’re embracing the cynical behavior of women also.
Bad Girls Club, Mob Wives, Real House Wives of Wherever, Basketball Wives are all shows that magnify the emotional roller coasters of women. We are so much more then weave and lip gloss. We know that but when we enter a meeting will our business partners know that. For me this means we have to work 20 times harder than before to prove we deserve to sit at the board table.
Back to women with criminal backgrounds. How are these women suppose to enter back into society when the government won’t allow school loans, the last person a company wants to hire is a felon with a kid, they can’t even get section 8 in Illinois. Yes it was their choice to break the law but if we don’t want them to repeat the behavior we need to offer some type of help.
I know people with College degree’s that are doing nothing with them. People with great jobs that complain every day.
Do you know a woman that has successfully entered into the workforce with a background? Share the story with us. Someone needs some hope.
Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 