We’ve heard the songs about “She got her own” “Independent lady” “5 Star Chick”. All hyping us up to believe that providing 100% for yourself in every way possible is the new way to go.
Yep, we got played!!! Men are now using our words against us. They’re saying since you want to be the bread winner and flash how much you’re balling we don’t have to treat you like a lady. Dudes are now looking to their women for support. Now we have to be super freaks, pay the bills, have the kids, cook, clean and be sexy. Um that doesn’t sound like winning to me. That sounds like more work.
Every generation has its struggle but I’ll admit I’d much rather go back to the man making the larger chunk of the money and still treating me like a lady.
There are tons of single ladies looking for their BOSS and I’m a bit curious as to see if there is indeed a boss for every well paid woman.
In the midst of this independent movement there are single mothers that have labeled themselves independent. Not by direct choice but is this something we want to teach our children. Do we want our boys to believe a woman should do everything and man gets to pick and choose his responsibility. Do we want our daughters to pull all the weight in a relationship. Excuse my language but HELL NAW!
Chicago Comedian Kellye Howard made a great point in her blog. “So basically this rant was to say, you may pride yourself on being a SINGLE mother, but who is it really benefiting? I don’t think the child is getting the best possible deal when one parent is deleted from his/her life because the other parent wants to prove her independence.”
Read Kellye Howard’s Independently SELFISH Single mothers!
Let’s cut the crap and stop acting like paying bills by yourself or raising your kids alone is what you want. Don’t block the other parent from stepping up and Single ladies with no children stop screaming independent unless you want to keep paying all your bills yourself.
My point today is How independent do you really want to be?
Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 