Some forms of wisdom come from living life and other forms we’re just born with. I was just thinking about how I became so confident. Then it dawned on me, I’m just that type of person that’s not concerned with what other people think of me.
I remember back in 7th 8th grade we would roast people in our class. We joked about the boy that couldn’t read, the not so attractive girl, the boy that looked like a rat, the fat dude, and I was the black ass big lip girl…LOL..
My mom always said I was pretty. She taught me to have my own style and voice. She made me be comfortable in my own skin. Clearly, I’m brown skinned and I have big lips. My defense mechanism was knowing that the world saw these things as flaws. I already knew the insults people would have before they did. In a sense it made me more confident. I know ALL my cons (according to the world) but I am well aware of my pros.
3 Tips for Being Comfortable in Your Skin
1.) That thing or things that you believe are horrible, embrace it. Tyra Banks once said on America’s Next Top Model, you can either fix it or flaunt it. We often end up looking more ridiculous trying to fix or hide our flaws than just flaunting them. You’ve seen the Hollywood chicks that look extra scary now because they just couldn’t accept their beautiful flaws.
2.) Tell yourself how beautiful you are. I know it sounds basic but it’s true. So many of us invest so much energy into others that we forget to stop and say “Girl, you’re beautiful” Look those flaws in the eye and say “You will not hold me back”.
3.) Surround yourself with positive people. These days it seems hard to find people looking on the bright side but they’re out there. You don’t need people pointing out what’s wrong with you 24/7 (That’s never helped any one’s self esteem.) Hang around people that are comfortable in their skin and encourage you to be comfortable in yours. I remember having a friend that would run if you said the word skirt. She felt her legs where too skinny. I didn’t say “girl, you’re right you’ll look whack as hell in that.” I told her she’d look amazing in a skirt. Let’s just say we can’t get her out of dresses and skirts now.
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Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 