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While I adore my friends, my private conversations with myself are much more indepth. If I can’t hold a meaningful convo about my personal goals with the chick that needs to accomplish them – am I really as dedicated as I say I am

When we love someone we say good things to them, right?

Why wouldn’t we do that to ourselves. Loving yourself is the ultimate survival skill. If you are interested in being liked or accepted by everyone you’ ll have a rough time being satisfied with your looks, accomplishments or goals.

When we are constantly searching for validation from folks that aren’t even a tad bit satisfied with themselves- we lose sight of the uniqueness we were born with. You aren’t suppose to be like everyone else

Take a note from the Beyonce classic, Me, Myself and I.

“Me, Myself and I that’s all I got in the end. That’s what I found out. Ain’t no need to cry because from now on Ima be my own bestfriend.”

When we like and accept ourselves – satisfaction is guaranteed.

Peace & Lessons

-Chanel

Relationships may be the most talked about topic on social media in 2016 – next to gun violence that is. Did you see how the webs went crazy over #MrStealYourGrandma? 

Straight Savages

I swear I can’t remember a day when I didn’t see a meme about THOT behavior, what a marriage should be and what people just want their bae to be.

Everybody’s an expert, but low key even relationships experts don’t have the keys to a happy relationship. Hence, Rob Hill’s recent divorce after 2 months of marriage. No shade.

Relationships are far more complex than people want to admit. I’m married, but I’m damn sure not an expert. I know what works for my relationship – don’t know the secret sauce for yours.

I’ll admit, love is a beautiful thing when it’s with the right person. However, I’ve seen a lot of people fall victim of obsessing so much over finding a mate or keeping a mate – that they lost themselves. That’s why so many people are abandoning the thought of love. Ain’t nobody trying to go crazy over trying to keep somebody that don’t want to be kept.

That’s dangerous.

We all were born with gifts to nurture, dreams to pursue and assignments to carry out. What happens to all that when choose to focus only on what our mate is doing?

For me true love allows me to pursue my God given destiny. A relationship should never mean you have to stop growing. Not sure why anyone would want that anyway.

Nobody wants a lazy lover or a jealous lover.

I want my husband to grow and explore, just like I want my kids to grow and explore. Now of course I don’t want him growing away from me and exploring no other chicks – but I’d be selfish if I got my panties in a bunch every time he wanted to try something new.

Relationships have ups and downs. Believe me when I say if you try to stop your mate from growing – you are not only cheating your mate. You are cheating yourself out of what could be a better man or woman for you.

Peace & Lessons

Chanel (PepTalkingChanel)

This is a deep question, right?

We all know dynamic women who have skills to conquer the world, but they chose to stay home and nurture the development of their children. What happens after the children are old enough for school? Is this the time to focus on mommy’s goals.

If you’re a mother you know it’s never time to focus on mommy. Mom’s Individualism is somehow lost in dirty diapers, play dates and pee wee basketball games.

It’s been a popular practice for years for mothers to put off their well planed goals to raise their family. The world as I view it ,is shaped by mothers.

When mothers raise successful, productive and respectful children the neighborhoods and essentially the world is a better place. The role of a mother involves love, discipline, compassion, sincerity, empathy and world of other emotions & skills.

There is no doubt that mothers are important to not only households but the WORLD.

The trend of postponing goals isn’t limited by race, many cultures of women view family as first priority. I applaud women for sacrificing their lives in the name of family. Mother’s day should most definitely be a week long celebration.

A mother’s sacrifice carries a lot of weight.  Sacrifice is defined as an act of giving up something valued for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy. That’s deep!

Giving up something valued like dreams of becoming CEO of a fortune 500 company, owning her own bakery, opening her own salon, competing in the Olympics, starting her own clothing line.

Is it possible for a woman to be a mom and actively pursue her dreams? YES!!

Will the journey be easy? NO! Mothers like Michelle Obama have successfully balanced motherhood, community involvement and career for years.

Candice Parker has gotten married and had a child without missing a beat in the WNBA. J.K Rowling is single mother and Author of the acclaimed Harry Potter series that rose to power with her daughter.

Life doesn’t stop because you have kids. Your dreams should not dissolve because a man comes in your life or little people.

Stay focused on what you want because at the end of your life you want to know you took advantage of life, life didn’t take advantage of you.

On top of all that, It’s important for children to see that their mother is more than a mother; she has the power to rule the world. Your kids need to see the GREATNESS you posses.

Women are dope, no matter what they decide to do. I’m just one of those crazy chicks that believe we can do it all – with the right support and vision.

Yes, Mommy Can Have a Life Too!

This is what happens when mommy finds $68 dollar round trip plane tickets  to Georgia 🙀 #SpringBreak2016