Last weekend we celebrated my bestfriend’s 30th birthday. It reminded me of when I turned 30 last year. People ask you the same question.
How does it feel? What kind of question is that. Am I instantly suppose to start wearing depends and using my senior discount. It’s not 65 people. The most amazing thing that happens is your license expires on your birthday. Which, reminds you that you have to stand in the longest line ever at the DMV. And they don’t even sing happy birthday to you. Crazy!
Now, for many 30 is the sign of the end of youth. It’s a time when some women start using more anti aging cream and panicking over wrinkles and opportunities lost. We start thinking about where we thought we’d be and what we thought we’d have.
That’s no way to live life. Come on. I’m standing with Jay-Z on this one. “30 is the new 20. I’m so hot still. Better chick. Better automobile.”
My boyfriend, ride and confidence are much better at 30. I feel more comforable than any other time in my life. My bestie said the same thing. It’s like I’ve accepted myself for who I am and who I’m not.
My late teens and twenties challenged me to face my weaknesses and work on myself. Although I didn’t have much (still struggling, but blessed) I still felt like I was growing into a woman I could be proud of. I learned to rely on myself for encouragement.
All those lessons my mom taught me, suddenly came in handy. Now maybe, I wouldn’t be so confident if I hadn’t accomplished some of my personal goals (I have a bus load more to work towards.)
So that brings me to this – how you feel at any age is up to you. I view life as growth and development. If we allow it, every action we take will move us closer to better living. Don’t be ashamed of where you are now, no matter how old you are. I’ve slept on couches, blow up beds and in trailers with no water. It helped build my story and character.
We are relevant at every age. Learn the lesson where you are and rock your age proudly.
Mommy Making Moves by LaChanel Hemphill 