The best marriage advice I’ve received is the person you’re with NOW is the person you’re marrying FOREVER. Don’t expect them to magically change into whatever imaginary person you have in your head. This same advice is true when having children with someone. I keep having the same conversation with people thinking that after a baby enters the picture everything will get better. 

Children are a beautiful blessing but they add responsibility. The person you sleep with that doesn’t call you back after, gives you excuse after excuse, doesn’t work, doesn’t go to school and doesn’t buy you anything, doesn’t talk about future plans with YOU. That’s who you want to have a child with? Think about it. Parenthood is a lifetime commitment.